“Every man is a feminist till he faces his wife in family court” – A statement that may seem satirical at first, but holds a profound truth. It highlights the dichotomy between men’s public declarations of support for feminism and their private actions when faced with personal consequences.
In public, many men proudly proclaim themselves as feminists, advocating for women’s rights and equality. They participate in marches, share supportive posts on social media, and engage in intellectual discussions about patriarchy and gender roles. However, when their own relationships are scrutinized in a family court, their feminist facade often crumbles.
It highlights a stark contradiction that often arises when men, who may outwardly advocate for feminist ideals, experience the complexities of divorce, child custody, or other family court proceedings. In these situations, the principles of fairness, equality, and justice are tested in ways that challenge personal beliefs and emotions, revealing how societal expectations of masculinity and entrenched gender norms can influence one’s actions.
This phenomenon is not limited to men alone; it reflects broader societal challenges in achieving true gender equality. The legal system, influenced by historical biases, can perpetuate inequalities that affect both men and women. For instance, custody arrangements always favor mothers, leading some men to feel disenfranchised and prompting them to adopt a more adversarial stance or forced to committ suicide too. because there is not support for them, nor any laws in favor of them.
Moreover, societal norms and expectations can further complicate this dynamic. Men are often socialized to view themselves as providers and protectors, roles that can clash with the principles of feminism that advocate for shared responsibilities and emotional openness. When faced with the realities of family court, some men may prioritize their interests over the principles of equality they once championed, leading to a dissonance between their beliefs and actions.
Family court can be a battleground where emotions run high, and the stakes are often personal and financial. In these situations, men may find themselves grappling with feelings of vulnerability and fear of losing their parental rights or financial stability. The adversarial nature of family court can lead to a reversion to traditional gender roles, where men may feel compelled to assert dominance or control in ways that contradict their professed beliefs in equality. This paradox highlights the tension between ideological beliefs and lived experiences.
The family court is a unique setting where men’s actions are held accountable, and their patriarchal privileges are challenged on false grounds and accusations. For Family courts and Judges every word of Women is Gospel Truth, no need of any proof to justify her every word, Acting of fearful face with sob stories and some Crocodile tears is enough. Suddenly, the same men who championed women’s rights in public forums become defensive and dismissive of their wives’ claims. They may employ tactics like victim-blaming, gaslighting, or even outright denial of their own wrongdoing. because these Feminist Men realise the truth about Feminism and overwhelming support for lies and false accusations and claims their wives make in family court and all of her demand are awarded without verifying any Authenticity of these claims.
Some of the judgments reference from Indian courts,
Without verifying Man is capable or employed to pay maintenance to able bodied, Educated women, Judges says BEG, BORROW OR STEAL BUT PAY.
Prima facie is enough to convict Man,
Interim maintenance can be awarded on Prima Facie.
No Women will file false case to Ashame herself (Judge indirectly saying Women word is Gospel Truth)
Women is not disqualify to claim maintenance because of her non-compliance to restitute conjugal rights
These Feminists Men realise only when they are in other men’s shoes, who are facing above type of judgments and orders to pay huge Alimony. till then Men will be Men.
Very true